The Manual: Letting Go

so my friend asked me to blog about "the players manual" LOL. not sure what to say however i will discuss a few relationship "challenges," how to confront these challenges, and hopefully how to have a decent relationship.

First, lets discuss letting go...

some of u ninjas and ninjettes swear youre going to make it work/happen with someone when in reality you need to let it go.

exercise: lets all pull out our phones (crackberry in my case) and go through the text messages. do you have three or more messages to the same person, without receiving a response?? LET IT GO!!!

we have ALL been there before...stressing over someone who isn't stressing over us but we have to be aware of when to let go.

exercise 2: you call, get three rings and then goes straight to voicemail...LET IT GO.

there is something deep down telling you, "they don't really fuck with me" quit ignoring that muthafucker and listen...that is called intuition.

exercise 3: your friends tell you to let it go...LET IT GO.

you know who your hating ass friends are and you know who your ride or die friends are...if ride or die is telling you to drop that zero and find yourself a hero, take heed. they are outsiders looking in, and a real friend does not want to see another friend playing themselves.

then there are some of you that got the one you were chasing but something just aint right...

its really hard to identify when to let go when you already "think" you have the one you want.

exercise 1: the last 4 weekends you were home alone and your "other" was out living it up...

exercise 2: you don't know when "other" gets paid but they know when you get paid...

exercise 3: their phone is a forbidden territory to you.

the hard part with letting go in a "relationship" is deciphering whether you need to let it go or try to work on things. all three exercises are grounds to let go only AFTER you have discussed your concerns with "other" and no resolution has been made. YOU CANNOT expect for people to know where youre coming from if they don't know where youre at. communication can make that happen.

PART TWO: getting what you want