I'm on twitter today and noticed a very serious debate going on.
what caught my attention was a woman saying "all men cheat." this spiraled into a back and forth and what got me to speak up was men were saying that all women "fall in love" after sex, where as men are more apt to casual sex, no attachments. *sigh*
I'm assuming these were cavemen talking. However, i will use this concept as a segway into "The Manual: getting what u want."
its cute that men think that all women need is a little dick in their lives, and i have often said "damn that bitter hoe needs some dick," but the reality of it is: we both need each other.
that is lesson/exercise one: ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND MEN AND WOMEN NEED EACH OTHER. with this knowledge you are able to never have to feel like you need him or her to complete you. just as bad as you want them, they want u.
with this knowledge you can also obtain confidence in knowing that he/she may not want you but someone who is finer, nicer, more educated, etc will want you. make sense, i hope so...we're moving on.
it's so important to know your self-worth in order to obtain not only healthy relationships but to be more successful, well received and just an all around better person.
lets be straight: confidence does not equal cocky.
confidence=i love who i am and am ok if you don't love me because i will always have self-love.
cocky= i love who i am, why don't you love me?? you should, i'm great.
see the difference??
confidence is like a new hairstyle or cut, people take notice. and when u love yourself people can't help but to notice. its unbelievably easy to show self love and it only takes a few seconds and the gestures are sooo simple:
what caught my attention was a woman saying "all men cheat." this spiraled into a back and forth and what got me to speak up was men were saying that all women "fall in love" after sex, where as men are more apt to casual sex, no attachments. *sigh*
I'm assuming these were cavemen talking. However, i will use this concept as a segway into "The Manual: getting what u want."
its cute that men think that all women need is a little dick in their lives, and i have often said "damn that bitter hoe needs some dick," but the reality of it is: we both need each other.
that is lesson/exercise one: ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND MEN AND WOMEN NEED EACH OTHER. with this knowledge you are able to never have to feel like you need him or her to complete you. just as bad as you want them, they want u.
with this knowledge you can also obtain confidence in knowing that he/she may not want you but someone who is finer, nicer, more educated, etc will want you. make sense, i hope so...we're moving on.
it's so important to know your self-worth in order to obtain not only healthy relationships but to be more successful, well received and just an all around better person.
lets be straight: confidence does not equal cocky.
confidence=i love who i am and am ok if you don't love me because i will always have self-love.
cocky= i love who i am, why don't you love me?? you should, i'm great.
see the difference??
confidence is like a new hairstyle or cut, people take notice. and when u love yourself people can't help but to notice. its unbelievably easy to show self love and it only takes a few seconds and the gestures are sooo simple:
smile
take care of your appearance
laugh
love
thats it!!!
smile- its a scientific fact (not really, shut up) that smiling reads as joy and pleasure to others. you can't bag a mate mean mugging (for those that don't speak slang: you can't find a mate with a mean expression upon thy face)...invite opportunity your way by smiling, SHOW OFF YOUR JOY AND PLEASURE to others.
take care of your appearance- take care of what you got, whether its kmart or cavalli. keep in mind the way you take care of yourself is the type of person your going to attract. so u havent had a line up in two months and u look like wolf-man jack, don't be surprised if u get a broke down raggamuffin...NINJA, U LOOK BROKE DOWN TOO!!!! ladies, youre a size 14 (triple d) and have on a midriff and leggings, don't be surprised if u get a man asking "how much??" YOU LOOK LIKE A HOE!!! i can't stress enough, you don't have to have designer gear or mac make-up. find a look that fits you, rock it with confidence...take care of it with patience.
laugh- i hate to see people try to contain their laughter. if somethings funny, LAUGH...it burns calories. it also invites people to share in your joy. sidenote: i had a friend in middle school whose laughter was contagious. every time she laughed, i couldn't help but laugh and we would sit on the phone for hours laughing at nothing...and it was fun. when is the last you laughed really hard??
love-LADIES LADIES LADIES, this is for you...men don't like hating ass females. stop mugging pretty women, stop dissing a chick cause she got knock off laboutins (even though that is a travesty within itself)...if she's bad, say she's bad. it makes you look better in the long run. the classic scenario is a group of men and women sitting around "discussing" and when a pretty chick is named all the females have something negative to say: "i heard she's a hoe," "you know thats not her real hair," "somebody said she fucked to get that bag." SO WHAT!!!!! be a trendsetter and say something nice. its good karma on you, u stand out from the crowd and a "good" man will see the "good" in you...get it?? a "good" man...cause they're only attracted to "good" women.
fellas, if youre hating on another dude u just look gay to females, thats it...point done. also, stop being so negative. your heart cannot receive love if it doesn't believe in love. stop burdening others with how fucked up you are and focus on how good you are cause "good" people are only attracted to other "good" people.
i can't stress enough how easy it is to get what u want from following such simple guidelines...but what's uber is they work for more than just relationships, it makes for a healthier, happier way of life.
Next: The Manual: Keeping What You Got
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